I became disabled in an instant, but my husband Jay did not become a caregiver in that same instant. No one, like, gave him a pamphlet or anything! He had to learn by trial and error, and the stakes were high.
Many of you, dear friends, are in a marriage with a caregiver or care-receiver and you’re navigating what it looks like to uphold a version of your vows you didn’t see coming. I am the first person to affirm what a complex position you are in.
After nearly 17 years of this caregiving-in-marriage deal, we’ve learned a few things about healthy conflict, surrendering control, and releasing old dreams. We’ve also made all the mistakes. So Jay and I want to share a little wisdom—and a LOT of encouragement.
Here’s what you can expect from our time together on The GoodHard Story podcast this week:
- The #1 way we “beat the odds” of divorce after a traumatic brain injury
- What’s worked for us (and what hasn’t worked) in conflict resolution
- Leaning into non-traditional gender roles in our marriage
- Deciding to dream new dreams for our lives
- How I stopped feeling like a burden in my marriage
If you’re longing to feel seen and supported in a caregiving marriage, this episode is for you.
Show Notes:
The Meaning of Marriage by Tim Keller – https://a.co/d/9P0hVVF
Stanley Hauerwas – https://stanleyhauerwas.org/
Hope Heals Camp – https://hopeheals.com/camp
Ep. 76 – 5 Ways to Start Believing You Are Worthy of Care – https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/episode-76-solo-5-ways-to-start-believing-you-are-worthy/id1496882479?i=1000676043943
Ep. 74 – Unspoken Demands for a Perfect Life with Sho Baraka – https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/episode-74-unspoken-demands-for-a-perfect-life-with/id1496882479?i=1000674277593
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